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Feeling a little edgy, anxious or stressed? Continually getting
the wrong results no matter how hard you press?
Before you jump for a Xanax, Prozac or stroll the pain relief
section of your local grocer, consider for a second that it is
possible that some alien life form may have taken over your
body. Alien in the sense that it controls your life and
you are totally unaware of its presence.
You may ask yourself how does this
happen? How do I know if I've been taken over by these
life sucking aliens and how do I get rid of them?
How Patterns Evolve:
When a child encounters a traumatic event or
is on the receiving end of a continual set of negative messages
he or she doesn't have the freedom of choice to step away as an
adult would.
When kids repeatedly take in negative
experiences
but have no way to process or express the feelings inside, their bodies
are left holding an icky residue that builds up over time. This residue if
left unattended can eventually pop up later in adult life in the form of a
negative pattern or repeated set of undesired behaviors (the
alien life form). The only problem is, you are likely to
be the last
person on earth to find out you are an alien and your friends aren't likely to tell you,
out of fear of losing you as a friend. Some friends!
T his article is intended to help you identify
potential patterns that may have taken over your life and also
help you to dissolve them.
A Test Pattern:
Let's take a closer look at how a
pattern forms by hearing Joanne's story.
I guess you could say my parents
used to fight a lot. They would scream at each other at the top
of their lungs, curse a lot, toss pots and pans and embarrass me
in front of my friends. It got so screwed up that I
couldn't bring friends home from school anymore. Some times Mom
would be smoking dope on the front porch, other times Dad was
passed out on the sofa, home early from work. They
both had a temper and I often questioned whether I was the
problem since I was their only child. Counseling and stress
relief drugs weren't very popular in the 60's. Most of the
time I would hide in my room with my stuffed animals pretending
to live out in an enchanted forest, far away from home.
Dad was an uncontrollable drunk that
was very possessive of Mom, but he would never lay a hand on
her. He would get pissed whenever she came home late and
accuse her of hanging out with other guys. Mom was more
attractive and secure than dad. I think she married him
out of convenience and pity. Her parents were both abusive
drunks as well. So it seemed to continue the pattern.
Mom was pretty strong. She
wouldn't take any crap and had a fierce temper. In her
eyes she was always right. Eventually she tuned him out of her
life and they drifted apart, I suppose they got divorced, but
that's hard to remember when. I only remember seeing him
at Christmas time and at Easter. He seemed very nice, but Mom
would always put him down. He wanted to be a part of my life but
she wouldn't allow it. Mom thoroughly convinced me that he
was a rotten, drunken, no good dirty, blah, blah, blah, cheat.
Mom made it pretty clear to me and the rest of the family that
all men were the same; worthless.
Dad would send presents for my
birthday but Mom never gave them to me. I found some gifts
from my 10th birthday in Mom's closet when I turned 15. I never
saw my Dad again after my 10th birthday. He died in a car
accident in 1982 out in California. I didn't find out in
time to go to his funeral, but I later learned that he had
remarried, had 2 boys of his own and was successful in the
investment banking industry.
As for me, I'm 32 now and I have had
one failed relationship after another. Every time I seem to find
Prince Charming, he ends up getting knocked off his horse or I
find some fault that I just can't live with and it's goodbye.
I never really saw the connection between my failed
relationships and the negative experiences of my childhood.
I guess in listening to this story it seems fairly obvious, but
for me it was a definite blind spot. I suppose I'm still looking
for that enchanted forest where the animals take care of me.
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Warning:
Dissolving a pattern is difficult work.
Once you discover a pattern and work to dissolve it, every aspect of your
life that depends on that pattern seems to fall apart.
Don't worry this is only temporary.
It's like trying to kick any habit, your body, mind and emotions tell you
to give in - that you are weak. Remaining strong you will eventually
win out and see how this pattern controlled a part of your life.
Remember that you have unlimited potential
and a world of possibilities at your disposal.
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Attracting Like
Energy:
When you are completely caught up in
a pattern you take the pattern to be some invisible law or
barrier that can't be crossed. It is viewed as the "hand you are
dealt" or "the way things must be" and you may do little to
challenge it, break it or cross it.
You may not even realize it, but
when you are caught in a pattern you are sending out signals to
others with your body language, speech, mannerisms and attitude.
You are transmitting your pattern signal like a silent beacon.
Your signal attracts a like signal on the same frequency.
To use an example, if you believe that all men are worthless
jerks, you are likely to attract more worthless jerks into your
life.
Signs
That A Pattern May Be Running Your Life:
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Your emotions and bodily
sensations take a drastic swing when your pattern emerges.
For example, someone might get agitated when their spouse
spends money without their knowledge, even if it is for
essentials such as clothing. In this moment of agitation
they lose all sense of reason and immediately react the way
they are conditioned to. They do this even though they are
fairly well off. When we look deeper into the pattern
emerging we find that they had a deep seeded fear of losing
everything. This may have stemmed from a poverty level
upbringing and a later success in life. Until they accept
that financial problems are not the end of the world, they
will continue to be trapped in this pattern of behavior.
Ways to Dissolve the
Pattern:
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